The great thing about experimenting with a partner is that you can develop techniques and habits that suit your partner's desires and specific needs. But how will you know what works? I'm going to tell you how to be "good in bed." Just pay attention! If your partners are good communicators (which it is their job to be) then they will indicate, through vocal sounds, body movement, facial expressions, or words, what feels good, and what feels REALLY good. Pay attention, take mental notes, and keep on trying new things.

It's also OK to ask! Ask your partners what they like, what turns them on, how and where they like to be touched, and whether there's any kind of touch they particularly don't like (in which case your accidentally stumbling into it might really kill the mood for them). Pay attention to what they tell you verbally and otherwise, and remember that everyone is different, and you'll be lover of the year. (Oh- it also helps if you don't say anything like "really? gross!" when they do tell you what they like, even if it's out there to you.)